By Dr. Rabbi Cohen Shalomim Halahawi
Socio-spiritual political leader, physician, rabbi, author
Copyright 2016. All Rights Reserved
The major rule that you see even most sacred of people violate due to ignorance and error in what they have been taught. The error of over-righteousness.
Yet no one has to be told that they can not do, think or be anything greater than the Eternal Creator Yahwah Elah… Right?
However, when it comes to forgiveness, many people clearly don’t understand the principle of forgiveness of others who violate them or do wrong towards them in any form or fashion. Yet the truth remains that Elah has principles and we must follow his pattern in all things…We are not supposed to contradict him in any form, even if we have the best of intentions and the purest of hearts..
Forgiving people after they have violated you or offended you before they try to make mends with you is very very common, but it is not a righteous thing to do.
For example: if you sin against Elah and break his covenant and turn your back on him by violating his laws and teachings. does he automatically forgive you? Does Elah forgive any sins of a person who does not acknowledge such sin and come before him asking him for forgiveness? What about if they acknowledge the sin but then do not actually repent and stop doing it? does he forgive then? Do you think you can just go and talk to Yahwah Elah while still living a life of sin and he actually hears you or even listen to what you have to say?
“Proverbs 15:29 יהוה is far from the wrong ones, But He hears the prayer of the righteous”
“Proverbs 28:9 He who turns away his ear from hearing the Torah, Even his prayer is an abomination.”
“Isaiah 59:1-2 Look, the hand of יהוה has not become too short to save, nor His ear too heavy to hear. But your crookednesses have separated you from your Elohim. And your sins have hidden His face from you, from hearing.”
The answer is absolutely NOT, Elah would never forgive a person who sins against him and does not acknowledge and confess it and then stop doing it which is repenting. and Elah does not listen to anyone who engages in Sin and is actively living a life that is contrary to his laws and will. You can talk to him or pray all day, but until those sins are acknowledged, confessed and forgiveness is sought and the evil lifestyle stops and is changed, to him you do not exist. you are DEAD TO HIM.
That rhetoric you hear from deceived people about “The Eternal Creator knows my heart” and “I know I am not perfect, but I know my god listens to me and pray every night after I drink my beer, smoke my weed, have my gang bangs and do what I do”…” I know the word and I know he knows the truth of my heart”….
That is total garbage and is the most satanic bullshit of a wicked person that could be imagined. Elah knows a heart by the manifestation of the actions and lifestyle of a person. A person’s heart is reflected through their lifestyle.. So if the lifestyle or actions are wicked, the heart is wicked, no matter how much prayer, synagogue, mosque, church service or bible reading a person does. Elah is not entertaining such people because to him they are DEAD…
Elah has a way he does things in how he deals with his creation. and he is the one who established the proper order and way one has to approach him for forgiveness, healing, and restoration.
The order in how things are done that leads to forgiveness is:
2Chronicles 7:14 “and My people upon whom My Name is called, shall humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their evil ways, then I shall hear from the heavens, and forgive their sin and heal their land.”
The first thing is a person becoming humble and then after that communicating to Elah face to face with him in his presence, acknowledging and confessing their sins and wrongdoings, and then stop doing the evil or destructive way. It’s after all of this that THEN Elah will hear from heaven, forgive a person’s sins and then start the process of healing and restoration of the broken relationship……
So if this is How Elah does things, then how can you all act like you are better than Elah and act like you can forgive somebody who has wronged you before they even acknowledge their wrongdoings and asking for your forgiveness?
Yes, many of you go against the protocols and principles of forgiveness after someone offends you, violates you, hurts you, or treats you any kind of way and really think you are doing something righteous when you say “brother or sister, I have already forgiven you”, even while they still disrespecting you or have no intentions of making mends with you!!! Noo, absolutely not, that is NOT how it works…..!!!
And it’s because of this wrong premature forgiveness stance that many people who offend or disrespect others will come back at a later time and smile in the face of the persons they offended as if nothing happened, and many of you let it slide..
That is not the way to forgive and that is not the way to heal broken friendships or straighten out conflict with a true final solution. that is in fact promoting and endorsing irresponsible behavior and not maintaining the standards of accountability for one’s actions.
If your spouse breaks covenant against you and then refuses to show humility, and acknowledge the wrong they have done, you cannot authentically forgive that person nor can that relationship even remotely begin to heal……
Elahs protocols and standards are best and he knows best… We are not greater than him in love nor forgiveness, and no one should be allowed to disrespect you, violate you or offend or hurt you and then be pardoned and released when they have not made any effort to show accountability, make mends with you and acknowledge what they’ve done in humility.
You not forgiving a person who didn’t seek forgiveness is not going to keep you in any chains or bondage, nor is it considered a grudge or mean-spirited. It’s not a sin in any fashion nor a violation of the Torah.. The person who fails to humble themselves and seek your forgiveness is the one who is in bondage and chains and is in SIN against you and ELAH. Elah is not going to forgive them for what they have done against you until they seek you and seek your forgiveness. They cannot go to him first, they have to come to you first.
Even the New Testament Scriptures teach this principle, attributing it to Yeshua Ben Yoseph and Mariah.
Mattiyahu 5:22 “But I say to you that whoever is wroth with his brother without a cause shall be liable to judgment. And whoever says to his brother, ‘Raka!’ shall be liable to the Sanhedrin. But whoever says, ‘You fool!’ shall be liable to fire of Gehenna.
Mat 5:23 “If, then, you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother holds whatever against you,
Mat 5:24 leave your gift there before the altar, and go, first make peace with your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
It’s only after they seek your forgiveness in true humility and repentance that, if you do not forgive them and start the process of healing and making mends, that you will be found to be in sin, holding a grudge, and then placing yourself in chains and bondage.
Learn to stop being over-righteous and being walked over, pardoning people prematurely. walk in the image and likeness of Elah. forgive as he forgives and only in the pattern as he forgives…Do not deviate by doing more or less. stay the course and keep it balanced the right way.. Forgive only after you are sought for forgiveness by the person who shows humility and is seeking you face to face to make mends. Demand respect and ensure everyone around you respects you even as you respect others.. If they don’t seek forgiveness after wronging you, then like Elah, dismiss them and move on until that time comes, if ever. .Do not allow them in your space whatsoever until that time…simple as that…
Regardless never allow yourself to become bitter, hold grudges or allow what others do or say against you negatively and destructive affect your life. Stand strong knowing that Yahwah Elah will always have the back of the righteous and will always be the one who exacts vengeance on the wrong,
Deut 32:35 ‘Vengeance is Mine, and repayment, At the time their foot slips; For near is the day of their calamity, And the matters prepared are hastening to them.’
Prophetic Lesson for today…Shalom
PART II Extension
Article Written 2016
We now live in a world where people are cruel, heartless & bitter, lacking character, integrity & basic decency & kindness. What is even worse is many of these same people actually think that it’s okay to disrespect people, hurt and betray people and then still stand in those they’ve disrespected face and expect such people to just let bygones be bygones, without ever taking responsibility for their actions and seeking to make amends for their offenses. Many will in fact be in the wrong and then dig in their heeld and even try to hide behind the “Do not judge me syndrome” that has basically caused massive human digression towards de-evolution.
Never ever let someone disrespect you and then leave out of your life and then later come back with a pleasant tone & start trying to be in your life again while acting like nothing ever happened in the past. If a person will not apologize and make amends with you reject them until they do.
One of the most popular sins committed by people who think they are being righteous is to forgive someone preemptively or prematurely before they apologize, acknowledge what they have done, and make efforts to amend with you.
Pre-forgiving a person is tantamount to legitimizing their sin and behavior. It also shows the lack of understanding a person has of what it means to walk in the image of Yahwah Elah. If you are truly walking upright in Yahwah Elahs image then you act and do things in the pattern in which he does things.
There is no one on the face of this earth nor in space or time whom Elah has forgiven of a sin in which such persons have not humbled themselves, prayed and sought the face of Elah to forgive them of their sins and turned from their sinful ways.
In fact, Yahwah says in 2 chronicles 7:14,
If people humble themselves, pray, seek his face and turn from their sinful ways, then and only then does he hear from heaven, forgives sin and bring healing.
So how is it that people think they can go beyond Elahs way and start forgiving people instantly who never sought forgiveness? That is why it’s a sin to do so.
I have not forgiven any of my ex-wives who committed adultery, nor the men whom they committed it with, nor anyone who has disrespected me as a person and rabbi simply because they never came to me, apologized & they never acknowledged they were wrong nor ever sought to make amends. And if I did just forgive them without them making effort to seek forgiveness I would delegitimize my prophetic and priestly authority because I would be validating and condoning such behaviors.
Not forgiving a non-repentant person doesn’t mean you are holding a grudge or being vindictive. That only applies after someone seeks to make amends and seeks forgiveness and you refuse to grant it. That is then sinning.
You can simply release them from your life and never deal with them or unwelcome them as long as they are not repentant. By doing this you allow Elah to take vengeance upon them, but prematurely forgiving invokes Elah taking vengeance on the both of you.
You can even be respectful and be the better man or woman while not forgiving. At the same time never let a person get away with the arrogant fake repentance who uses the “if there is anything you think I have done to offend you then I am sorry” card… Reject it immediately!!! If they can’t acknowledge specifically what they have done against you, do not accept it whatsoever.
Also, you cannot violate a person or do something against them behind their backs without them ever knowing or even in their face and then later sweep what you have done under the rug so they never find out and then try to do extra good towards them and then run directly to the Eternal Creator first seeking the Eternal Creator for forgiveness for what you have done to someone else who’s in the dark about everything. Your prayers will never reach Elah and will simply get shot down.
You must leave your sacrifice at the altar and go and acknowledge what you done to the person you violated and seek their forgiveness. Then after that, you go to Elah and seek his forgiveness.
This is the correct halachic way that one must do things in order to atone for sins. People who are not sorry for what they have done don’t deserve the precious gift of forgiveness.
Unforgiven sins abort purpose and waste potential. That is why soo many people, especially black Americans, have such chronic unsound minds and devastating lives.
One of the biggest reasons I find black women as a turn off in America is due to the fact that they have an actual culture and mentality where they think they can do and say things to a person and never apologize and then when you approach them about what they have done they make things worse and add insult to injury and then think they can blow people off as if they are somehow gods gift to man when the truth is that many are Satan’s tool to hell. And that is why they are the most unwanted and undesirable species on the planet as it relates to marriage and family building. We are talking about a whopping 85% single rate. 9 out of 10 black women are bad for relationships, yet at the same time they are the number one targets for sex. 9 out of 10 black women are only good for opening their legs to multiple men who would never marry them. Their behavior is destructive and their attitude and lack of repentance coupled with erroneous Christian beliefs that protect and foster sin moreso than correct and hold people accountable for their behavior is the driving force behind her undesirableness and why she experiences every written curse of Deut 28.
However, the consequences apply to all. Preemptive forgiveness makes you complicit with sin. Repentance always comes before forgiveness and no one is above Elah. If Elah doesn’t operate a certain way none of us should be operating any different.
Rabbi-Kohen Shalomim Y HaLahawi